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Why I don’t follow wedding blogs

Goodness! Never thought I’d be writing this blog post. Ever.

Seven years ago, my husband (fiancee, back then) and I were planning our wedding and obviously, wedding blogs were all the rave. I’d be scouring pages of Style me Pretty or Green Wedding Shoes for hours and dream of all those gorgeous images I’d seen, putting imaginary pins (cause someone decided to invent Pinterest AFTER my wedding) in hundreds of inspirational shots.

Fast forward to today. Wedding blogs are pissing me off. Not all of them, but the majority has a way to make my insides churn. And why? Because of styled shoots.

Oh boy. Styled shoots. Ya know, those absolutely perfect sessions where amazing professionals gather together and bring their A game to the table: drop-dead gorgeous centerpieces, wedding gowns, florals, out-of-this-world locations, perfect couples etc. And the resulting photographs are just as expected: amazing. But all this manages to give me a headache and yes, I might be melodramatic, but it’s with a good reason: it’s because styled shoots are not real. There is no emotion there, no feeling, no realness. No glimpse of the groom tearing up when he sees his bride, no image of the┬áparents holding hands while watching the union of their children, no picture of true emotion.

I feel like if I see one more picture of wedding shoes on Instagram, my head is gonna explode. Yes, that’s how pissed I get about the subject, because it’s sad how this world has become obsessed with perfection and how shallow perfection is perceived. A perfect wedding is not about styling, but these wedding blogs would beg to differ; they’ll put all the attention on images of details (dead, might I add, purely inanimate objects) and forget all about love. You can have an incredible wedding, filled with emotion and people who are making the day special, but the blogs will never publish them unless they have a gazillion images of details and vendors out-of-this-world-awesome.

It bugs me greatly. That this world is so perfection-oriented and, worse, that they see perfection through such a wrong perspective. A perfect wedding is about realness (NOT STYLED), about love and connection (NOT A BUNCH OF PROFESSIONALS RUNNING THE SHOW), about people (NOT TABLE DECORATIONS).

So this is my beef with wedding blogs, just in case you were wondering.:P

 
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